Room for More · safety
When something goes wrong at an event
Too much to drink, someone making others uncomfortable, pitching or scamming, someone in distress, anything violent. It's short on purpose, so you can read it on your phone in a loud room. The day-to-day hosting side is in the hosting guide.
The general shape
Get to the person early, quietly, one to one. Most things end here.
Not in front of the room. An audience turns a correctable moment into a stand-off, because now they have to save face as well as change what they're doing.
1 Too much to drink
Water, a seat, a conversation.
Loop in venue staff. It's their licence and they deal with this far more often than you do.
Don't let someone leave alone if they're badly off. Sort a taxi and someone to see them into it.
2 Someone making others uncomfortable
Say it plainly and privately: what the behaviour is, and that it stops tonight.
No debate about intent. You are not establishing what they meant, you are ending what they're doing.
If it continues, they leave. You don't need certainty, and you don't need someone willing to be named.
3 Pitching or scamming
Stop it and say it isn't allowed. No selling, pitching or recruiting at our events (someone telling people about another Room for More event, with that host's OK, is fine and isn't this).
If money or crypto is involved, tell me the same evening and I will remove them from the channels.
Then tell the room something general: that someone was asked to leave for soliciting, and to forward anything similar. People who were approached often feel foolish and stay quiet, so the announcement is what surfaces the rest of it.
4 Someone in distress
Somewhere quieter, and ask what would help rather than guessing.
You're not a counsellor and shouldn't try to be. Being there is enough, and it is a lot.
Any risk to their safety: call 113.
5 Anything violent or threatening
Venue staff, then 112. Don't handle it yourself. Nobody's evening is worth an injury.
Emergency numbers
| 112 | Police / life, property, or safety at risk |
| 113 | Ambulance |
| 110 | Fire / gas leak |
| 116 117 | Out-of-hours doctor (legevakt) |
| 116 123 | Emotional crisis support line |
6 Afterwards
Write down what happened while it's fresh and tell whoever needs to know. Keep names out of anything shared. The point of the note is that the memory isn't sitting in one person's head.
Where it involves a member and might need action, tell me, at any hour: +47 984 41 663.
Never handle something you're personally involved in or close to. Hand it to me, that's all. And if what happened involves another helper or host, it comes to me whatever their role is.
If it shook you, say so to someone. Hosts absorb more than people realise and it is invisible unless said out loud.
You have backing
If you ask someone to leave and get it wrong, that's fine and we'll deal with it. You will never be criticised for acting to protect the room.
In the room, you do not need permission from anyone to ask someone to stop, separate people, move the group on, or call me.
If you're ever unsure, the safe move is the one that ends the situation now. Getting the aftermath tidy is my job, not yours.
Worth keeping on your phone.